I hear way to much that grooms hate engagements, brides begin wishing they were shorter and dad’s can’t wait for the day after the wedding. This is supposed to be a happy time. Why is it so stressful? There could be a lot of reasons. Budgets, family members, time-frame, distance.
A big part of why I became a wedding planner was to take the stress out of the process and keep it a happy time. For those brides I may not get to work directly with, here’s the best advice I can give. It’s not rocket science.
Be flexible and go in with an open-mind. Just like the wedding day, nothing will go exactly as planned for your engagement. But that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. You may have dreamed of peonies for your bouquet but just realized they are way outside your budget. Or found out the color you wanted is discontinued, or your bridemaids’ dresses won’t come in in time, or your photographer is booked. But don’t let it derail you when it comes. All of these situations have happened. In all cases the girls found something they were just as happy with if not more so. But if only one option will make you happy, not having it work out will leave you devastated. What if a few options worked? Then there is no room for complete and utter disappointment. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t go for the things you have always wanted for your wedding day. Just go in with a few ideas rather than a must-have plan.
Remember Bride Wars? Both brides wanted the same venue and only one day was available. Neither budged. And they both ended up fighting on the floor on their wedding day!