Same Song, Second Verse

July 6, 2010  |  In Her Shoes

Photo by Courtney Dellafiora

Wedding planning is like a rollercoaster. One minute I am stressed to no end and wanting to elope (yes, even wedding planners get that urge), the next minute I am coming up with and getting pumped about more and more DIY projects and ideas to add to my to-do list. This week was the latter. And then came the former. : )

At what point do you stop brainstorming and just let it happen? You’ve heard me say it before, I am feeling the pressure to come up with something that’s never been seen. And when I keep seeing those ideas I’ve been planning for months already produced, I scramble a bit to think of the next big thing. But why? Reality Check: I am not the Queen of Sheba or the President. No one cares that much about my wedding. My wedding is also not the standard by which all following weddings will take their cues from. My shoulders are already feeling lighter. What’s more, I know Tyler and I, a marriage license and not one or two but three officiants will be on site so the key ingredients are there. Lighter still. And our wedding will be filled with love and laughter and the closest people in our life. Bingo!

Now that I’ve got that figured out, I think the cut off for new ideas and projects, for me atleast, is going to be today. I have some pretty exciting ideas already that still need to be created. So I am officially shutting off the “research” phase of this wedding and moving on to “development.”

Our greatest stresser most of the time can be ourselves. Yes, your vendor misunderstanding the time of your wedding is probably their fault, but how we handle it will make all the difference in the world. So the next time you get overwhelmed, breathe (hee, hee, hoo, hee, hee, hoo) and repeat after me:

1. I am not the Queen of Sheba

2. I am not the President

3. A marriage license, officiant and groom are all I really need.

4. Research is compiled.

5. It’s time to develop.



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