Loving this outfit Gia from Flight of Fancy featured this morning! Girlie, preppy and put together. Enjoy!!
Tyler and I celebrated our 1st anniversary on Sunday. We went through our catalog of memories from this year that one of my best friends gave me. We took a photo a la pinterest, that we will take each year forever. We watched our wedding DVD, ate cake (I’ve only been waiting to do that for 6 months!) and got a little silly! We’ve had the one remaining can of silly string that was used for our exit sitting on our dressing this whole year. Tyler and I ended on anniversary playing outside in silly string! It was an amazing day celebrating our journey together so far.
I’ve felt for a while now that this world doesn’t do the best at showing how great marriage can be (more thoughts here). It truly has been the best year of my life. Better than buying a wedding dress or preparing for one of the biggest days of our lives. Better than even college (which I LOVED!).
We live life together. When I finish up a day doing work that I love, I’m excited to head home to the man that I love even more.
These past two weeks I had planned to blog every day. That hasn’t happened. This year I promised myself to learn better balance. You can’t have balance without remembering your priorities. And my marriage is one of my highest priorities. It has to be for it to, not just last, but to live up to the potential God created it to be.
Brides, you have an amazing life ahead. Don’t get too bogged down or stressed about working on the details. An engagement was not just created to have time to plan the big day. It’s a time to plan for a lifetime together. I challenge you, through this process, to let people see your love. I think photographers have the best opportunity to see that love between a couple when they shoot engagements.
Why do we forget to share that?
For the rest of us, the bulk of what we see isn’t the love but the logistics. We see brides roll their eyes at grooms when they try to give their opinion or grooms ignore brides when they are talking. I’ve seen several grooms on their wedding day who honestly didn’t look thrilled to be there, maybe for the sheer fact that you don’t think it’s cool to show that you’re excited to be a married man.
Jason, our photographer, left this photo on my desk with a note I’ve kept since then. He said seeing our love inspired him to love his wife even better than before.
It still makes me tear up to think our love has the power to inspire others!
Brides, you have an awesome opportunity. All eyes are on you and your groom. What will they see? A frantic bride and checked out groom? Or a truly inspiring love?
I’m pretty fired up this morning and felt the need to post this.
Why why why do people INSIST on putting a bride in such an uncomfortable and stressful place.
Coming up with the guest list is EASILY one of the most stressful parts of wedding planning.
Why?? Because of the people on and off that list.
I talk with 100 + brides every year between planning, hourly consults and invitations and one of the most consistent problems I hear about is figuring out the guest list.
– Your twice removed, step-aunt is wondering why she didn’t get an invite
– Your cousin insists you have to invite this group of people
– Your mother-in-law wants to add 50 people to the list that even the groom has never heard of
What do you expect a bride to say to that?? Do you honestly think they have a choice to say no? Even if you give the out of “It’s still up to you,” they still feel obligated to not create waves.
Something I struggled with when planning my own wedding is feeling like everything was about me. I was just so afraid to come off selfish. A lot of brides feel the same way so they let people walk all over them even if it adds tons of stress to the wedding day.
Moms, mother-in-laws, fiance’s, friends: If you TRULY want to see the bride less stressed, stop ADDING stress. Don’t make anyone feel bad if they don’t invite someone. There are so many factors that go in to why people are or aren’t invited. Respect that.
I honestly have the best in laws (shout out to the Woerners!!) and they only added peace to the process. When I hear of some of the situations my clients are dealing with, I can’t imagine how anyone would do some of these things to brides. Know that the bride has several people to work with: her parents on her budget, her fiance in staying calm and not stressed out (because they normally bear the bulk of that) and the in-laws in growing that relationship, not harming it. When you send the bride your guest list with 100 people more than she said to invite, that’s incredibly disrespectful. You may ask for a little wiggle room but in general, respect the number she sends. She has them for a reason.
If you’ve been invited, respect your invitation. Did it say to bring a guest? Well, bring a guest. Did it not have “and guest”? Then don’t bring a guest.
Respect their decision and don’t get offended by it. EVERYONE is on a budget. I specifically tell guest to set their count by their budget, not by every person they think to invite. In this case, of course not everyone will make the list. If you do bring it up to the bride, you are basically putting YOUR feelings about the BRIDE AND GROOM’S OWN WEDDING DAY above the bride’s feelings. That’s so backwards.
This issue may seem small if you’ve ever just thrown out a “hey, can I come?” but it weighs heavily on brides. I see it first hand. They’re not only worried about hurting people’s feelings but if they do say yes, it’s putting a strain on their budget. Guests, you easily costs $40+ PER PERSON when you go to a wedding, couples $80+ and families $100+. I hope understanding their perspective will help know how to respond in different situations.
NOTE: I work with some incredible brides, not bridezillas. I understand some brides can take this to the opposite extreme and be demanding and pushy but this advice is based on my experience with brides who can end up letting their wedding day be about other’s wishes instead of their own. They are naturally unselfish and my hope is that they are surrounded by people who respect them and don’t put them in awkwardness.
Yellow and gray was a favorite palette of mine a while back. I still love the palette but wanted to update it giving a more muted feel. Paired with the kraft and gray almost gives the yellow a neutral tone to me! Enjoy!!
Credits: 1. Creature Comforts 2. Sparkles Kitchen 3. Oh So Beautiful Paper
This month, to celebrate Southern Fete’s third birthday, I’m posting each week day. Week 1 was the series Are They Worth It?: Pictures & Video, Paper & Florals, Cake, Food & Venue. Week 2 Inspiration Boards: Pop Art and Mintastic. Week 4 Southern Wedding Tradtions: Ditch, Keep or Tweak.
The other day I bought the most beautiful shade of mint Martha Stewart craft chalk paint. I can’t get the color of my mind! Enjoy!!
Credits: 1. SF Girl by Bay 2. Sunday Crossbow 3. 100 Layer Cake 4. Postcards & Pretties
This month, to celebrate Southern Fete’s third birthday, I’m posting each week day. Week 1 was the series Are They Worth It?: Pictures & Video, Paper & Florals, Cake, Food & Venue. Week 2 Inspiration Boards: Pop Art and more to come. Week 3 Southern Wedding Tradtions: Ditch, Keep or Tweak. Week 4 New Trends.
Happy Monday Everyone!! As we continue our month of posts, this week we will have an inspiration board each day! I want to put a spin on them atleast for this week and have them feature more abstract images instead of specific wedding images. The longer I am in this industry the more I have to search OUTSIDE the wedding industry to stay creative. I hope it inspires some creative thinking for you as well!
Today’s board was inspired by the bride’s brightly colored flower crown. I thought a pop art feel would add perfectly to it!
Credits: 1. 100 Layer Cake 2. Print & Pattern 3. Aaron Dyer Photography 4. SF Girl By Bay
This month, to celebrate Southern Fete’s third birthday, I’m posting each week day. Week 1 was the series Are They Worth It?: Pictures & Video, Paper & Florals, Cake, Food & Venue. Week 2 Inspiration Boards. Week 3 Southern Wedding Tradtions: Ditch, Keep or Tweak. Week 4 New Trends.