How To :: A Perfect Wedding

June 13, 2012  |  Wedding Tips

Each wedding I have done (47, I think!) is completely unique. I learn something new each time.

For Laura and Jason’s wedding a month ago, I saw in Laura what I always preach is the best way to achieve the perfect wedding day. I teared up a few times because I was so excited for them to experience it so fully.

The morning of the wedding, I texted Laura. It had been pouring all morning with more rain in the forecast for the day, something that could have totally discouraged her and pulled her mind away from her soon-to-be husband and the blessing of the day. Here was the response I got:

What Laura didn’t know, is that while some brides see it this way, others think of how their day is ruined because of the rain.

I can’t stress it enough, things will not go according to plan. And the more things you feel have to be a very specific way, only multiply the more reasons that could make you upset on your wedding day, if you let it.

I like to think that I’m in control on a wedding day and if I do my job perfectly, a couple will have the best day ever. Unfortunately, that’s not the case.

A little tough love.

I can only do so much for you to have a happy day. It’s ultimately your own choice if you enjoy your wedding day. I’ve seen brides happy with the most understated wedding and brides completely distracted by the most minute things. It’s rare but it has happened and it’s difficult not to feel that it’s a reflection on the job I’ve done. I’ve had to realize, a person’s outlook is personal and I can’t “coordinate/plan it.”

The good news.

That is actually a VERY good thing!! It means you are in control of how you view the day, and no outside elements can mess that up!

It’s my hope that EVERY bride and groom will experience the utmost joy on their wedding day. Here’s some advice that I got to see in Laura that I believe helped make her day so special.

1. Keep your focus on the purpose of the day. All things will fall into place. You don’t want to remember that tiff you had with the groom or curse words you yelled at a vendor. You want to remember the smiles and laughs. Laura was sooo excited to marry Jason and showed that in so many ways. And it got me equally excited.

2. Trust your vendors. I’ve preached this before. Your vendors will perform incredibly better if they are confident they have your trust. Every single vendor of Laura’s came up to me and commented on what a wonderful bride she was and how truly HAPPY they were to do their best for her. It was incredibly eye-opening. They went above and beyond for her. Being surrounded by that atmosphere of mutual love, respect and trust made for an incredibly smooth day.

3. Love others selflessly. I watched Laura throughout the evening chat with lots of guests. She was so thoughtful asking them questions about what was going on in their world. If she hadn’t been wearing a white dress, her humble, sincere attitude could have easily hidden the fact that this day was just about her.

I wish I could tell you about all the things my bride’s have taught me. Sadie’s generous nature, Bria’s laid back attitude, Emma’s loving spirit. And so many more. Thank you, brides!! You have taught me not only about weddings but about life and I am forever grateful!

To those of you yet to get married, I wish you so much joy on your wedding day and hope these tips will help!! : )

I will leave you with a few photos of Laura and Jason by Dawn Earles. Dawn always does such a wonderful job and is amazing to work with!! Enjoy!



1 Comment


  1. And YOU have taught all of us so much too 🙂

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